The Place of Discovery

The Place of Discovery

Hi. My name is Annette and I am a licensed New Insights life coach. I am also a wife, mother and grandmother as well as a sister, aunt, niece, cousin, daughter and granddaughter. I have been a secretary, an administrator, an army sergeant, a sales person, teacher and the co-owner of a business.

Over the years, this would be how I defined myself, and these roles gave me purpose, they gave me a sense of who I was. As time has passed, the roles have changed. Being a mother doesn’t mean feeding and dressing and nurturing my children, and the job titles and positions that I had are no longer relevant.

So, who am I - without the roles? Is there a reason that I am here if I don’t fit into one of those positions in society? If you saw me in the street, how would you define me? What role would you assign to me and would I then feel I had been put in my place with a function to perform?

As I did my training to become a life coach and I went through the coaching program I realized how little I knew of myself. I didn’t know why I reacted to things the way that I did and I didn’t have clarity on what I actually believed about myself, or what was really important to me. I was in a kind of limbo just waiting for something to happen.

The first eye opener was recognizing that so much of my behaviour was driven by me wanting to get my basic needs met. All of us have these human needs and they drive our behaviour. Unfortunately, we often behave in destructive ways and have no idea why.

Then I looked at my beliefs, not my religious beliefs, but what I believed about my self and others and life. I saw that it wasn’t the actions of others causing my pain, it was my interpretation of the actions, my own beliefs about what those actions meant - AND I could, therefore, change those beliefs. How powerful is that?

I also spent time going through what was really important to me and what I valued in life and saw that, unknowingly, I thought that most people would value what I valued – I was very wrong. We expect others to live in our values because we think that they are general values, the right way to live, ……but it is not so. Everyone thinks and acts according to their own values, often without even realizing it.

The more you learn about what makes you tick, the more you understand yourself and know yourself, the easier it is to find your real purpose. What is most meaningful to you and how can you align yourself with this and start to live a life that is true to you? How can you grow and start to contribute from your own unique place in this world?

The answers are all inside of you, for you to find.

Remember………without you, the world is not complete.